Hi, my name is Barbara and it's been eight days since I checked my online dating profile....and you know why? I closed it down!
My strike rate on Plenty of Fish in the last four weeks was pretty low and it was starting to get me down.
I'd sent more than a dozen messages to guys I thought were cute or had a good profile (or both) and most went unnoticed. I didn't get replies back.
I must admit, I'd had a good run with messaging guys online. This was the first time I hit a brick wall and I didn't like it.
To add to the mix, old mate from the backpackers contacted me again (out of the blue). I was out for a few drinks with friends and got into a vodka-fueled message-a-thon with him (not recommended).
He tried to tell me he hadn't heard from me in a week and wanted to know what I was up to. Turns out he's got some personal stuff going on right now and I suggested it wasn't the best time to start something with me.
He agreed, then suggested I 'drop him a text or call' sometime. I said no, I wanted to be with someone who made me a priority.
He was under the (deluded) impression I just wanted to be friends.
Yeah, that's why my profile said "actively seeking a relationship". Sure.
I told him I didn't join an online dating site to find more friends.
He was like 'wow, okay, right'.
So right now I'm keeping an open mind about what will happen next. There's no online dating presence for me right now but maybe, just maybe, I'll find a guy the old fashioned way.