I recently got a taste of what a relationship might look like with someone I've known for almost five years.
Timing was
never right with us. Or that's what I always kept telling myself.
He
wouldn't/couldn't/didn't commit. I always wanted him to. We'd go 'round in
circles repeating these habits.
Yet time and
time again we'd find ourselves gravitating towards each other again. And each
time I was hoping it would work out differently.
Each time it
didn't.
Until the most
recent time.
I had hope. I
knew there was something between us that was more than a situationship as
everyone had labelled it.
Things were smooth sailing.
For three weeks.
Shortest honeymoon period I've ever had.
Slowly my self-doubts crept back in like a familiar pair of jeans. They look good, but you know the fit just isn't right.
We'd been here before and I knew
how it was going to play out.
He didn't
return my calls, didn't respond to text messages. Looked at photos I sent, but
still didn't contact me.
The old
feelings of uncomfortableness once again swept over me.
Oddly familiar
as we've been here before, but at the same time I was hoping we were done with
this.
Not
communicating our needs with other. Not truly saying how we felt. Letting the
other person go because you knew you couldn't give them what they want.
I know this
isn't the state I want to live in – constantly wondering if he's going to
return my calls – hell, answer them in the first place – reply to messages or
even message me first.
This isn't the
basis of a solid relationship, or even friendship.
The constant
state of not knowing where you stand isn't good for anybody.
I know
that.
I also need to
finish this last chapter with us.
I need to close
the book for the last time.
If he won’t
give me closure, I’ll take it for myself.