I knew when a guy asked me if I could put up with a low-meat diet he wasn't the one for me.
But going against my better judgement, we went on a date and I ended up calling it quits after just one hour (think this is a new record).
The whole time I kept thinking, I got dressed up for this guy. I could be at home watching MAFS in my PJs but instead I'm out on a school night listening to this self-righteous person talk down about society and his family.
He's got a beef with his parents and basically blames them for how he's turned out. Or not turned out.
He explains they are not well educated and hadn't gone to university. His mother didn't want him to follow a 'creative' path and it sounds like he still holds a grudge.
It's like they stunted him becoming what he was supposed to become. Whatever that was.
He didn't see his parents as his equal.
I have never felt more uncomfortable sitting hearing someone put their parents down as much as this guy did. And remember, we were only on the date for 60 mins.
He asked me about my parents and I said my dad hadn't finished high school but as an adult gained his PhD and my mum had always worked.
I think he was hoping I'd trash-talk my parents, but I wouldn't.
He also trashed his friends, saying he needed to make new ones who shared his beliefs as his old ones didn't anymore.
I have never met anyone more dissimilar to me than this guy. There is NO WAY I would date someone who speaks like this about his family and friends.
He asked what I thought about the bar we'd gone to? I said it was good, he thought something was missing and said it was sterile. I said it was missing some vases with fresh flowers on the bar (!!!) but he didn't like that answer.
At one point, though, he did compliment my watch. I said it was from Singapore and he asked me if it was battery operated or something else? I said battery I think - I've only had it since October.
I was about to say it cost $5 but decided against it as he'd probably turn on me
I was hoping, going into 2020, my dates would get better.
It's been more than 12 months since my last good date and tonight was no exception.
Have you heard the saying if you keep doing the same things you'll keep getting the same result?
Well, I was trying to broaden my horizons when it comes to the guys I like.
If you had of asked me a month ago would I date a vegan it would have been a flat out no. And turns out after tonight it's still a no.
Tonight's date describes himself as an "accidental" vegan who likes salami and bacon. What the? Go figure. Apparently he's allergic to eggs and is lactose intolerant, blah blah blah.
This bothered me to start with because I am a meat eater and wouldn't know how I'd go with someone who wasn't.
This (pseudo) vegan, looked disinterested the whole time during the date. When he wasn't playing with his half-empty beer glass (and had told me he didn't drink much), he was spinning his phone on the table which annoyed me (he'd already answered a text - black mark).
He also contradicted himself. Said he liked Dendy cinemas because you could take a glass of wine in. I called him out saying but you don't drink much and he's like oh, it's nice to have a glass in the cinema.
My gut was already telling me I couldn't date a vegan, but his philosophical look on life cemented that for me.
He even lectured me on how many cultures believed it was important to "break bread" when sharing a meal.
He'd wanted to meet for Japanese but this was quickly quashed when I told him I didn't eat it.
I don't need a lecture about the importance of breaking bread or having someone suggest I would be eating a low-meat diet if we dated.
No thank you.
Next!
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